May 15, 2017. Three years ago, Matt died. It still seems impossible. We still miss him every minute of every day. It still hurts.
Ron and I would normally go out to Boulder to be together with our son, Brian, during this time but travel is not possible during the time of Covid-19. Well, possible, but not smart.
I love being in Boulder because, of course, Brian is there with his wonderful girlfriend, Kelsey, and my two grand kitties. It makes me happy just being around them.
Bonus, Brian hugs me like Matt did, a full tight hug where he doesn’t let go right away. For that moment, time stands still and I know I am loved and we share our connection of missing Matt.
Boulder is also the place that Matt last lived so I feel closer to him when I’m in Boulder. I see Matt everywhere, walking along the creek path, in the restaurants we ate at, or around the CU campus where Brian went to school.
We put a memorial bench in Matt’s honor at the Evert Pierson Kid’s Fishing Pond along the Boulder Creek Path. It’s a beautiful location with the creek in front of you and the pond and mountains behind you. It’s a wonderful place to sit, contemplate, talk to Matt, and just be. When we requested that location for the bench, they recommended it face the fishing pond saying it was too secluded facing the creek and would encourage homeless people to use it. We told them Matt would be honored to have homeless people using his bench, so please have it face the creek. The plaque reads, Matt Kurtz, 2/13/85 – 5/15/17,
Your goodness & spirit live on in those you’ve touched.
Brian goes there regularly and sometimes leaves a kindness rock. The hope is that the saying on the rock will touch someone, inspire them, or motivate them to spread more kindness. We hope the person who finds the rock will take it, if it speaks to them, or pass it on if they think it will help someone they know.
While I wish we could be there to walk the creek, sit on the bench, and hug our son, sadly that can’t be, but our hearts will be there with Brian and we’ll do what people are doing now for celebrations and memorial services. We’ll zoom with Brian, light a candle, say some words, and share our Matt memories. It’s not enough but it’s all we have.
A place to go and contemplate
A place to feel compassion
A place to appreciate the surrounding beauty
A place to talk to Matt or a loved one you’re missing
A place to rest and a place to just be
If you’re ever out in Boulder, CO . . . . . . We’d be honored if you visit Matt’s bench.
You can find it off the Boulder Creek path at 8th and Canyon Boulevard. If you think about it, email me a picture with you at the bench or write and tell me about your visit.
Is there someone who inspires you with their kindness? Nominate them for the Matt Kurtz Kindness Award of $250.
Do you have an act-of-kindness project you want to do but need help funding it? Submit your idea for the Matt Kurtz Kindness Grant of $250 and let us help you spread kindness.